Why Sting Didn’t Attend His Parents’ Funerals

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From his days with the Police to his outstanding solo career, Sting has had a long journey filled with success in the music world. His path to becoming a well-known singer began in 1977 when he co-founded the Police with Stewart Copeland and Henry Padovani. The band released their debut album ‘Outlandos d’Amour’ in 1978, and although they achieved worldwide success in the following years, they disbanded in 1986.

Sting realized that he wanted more creative freedom in his music. During his time in The Police, he had to adapt his preferred sound and lyrics to his bandmates, which was quite limiting. He embarked on a solo journey to limit the outside interference in his vision. His time in the music industry has made Sting one of the world’s best-selling musicians, both with The Police and his career as a solo artist.

Although his life was full of success in the music world, Sting had a troubled childhood. His mysterious relationship with his family has been the topic of discussion among fans. One of the questions on everyone’s mind was why Sting chose not to attend his parents’ funerals.

Sting’s Complex Relationship With His Parents

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Even though Sting has achieved greatness in his life, he has also overcome many traumas. In his memoir Broken Music, it was disclosed that his mother’s affair encouraged him to play music. He turned to his piano for solace when he discovered that his mother was having an affair with one of his father’s employees. From that point forward, he bore trust issues towards women, and the rocky relationship between his parents deeply affected him.

During a conversation with the Irish Times in 2003, Sting shared his thoughts about his complicated relationship with his parents. He described his childhood as an emotionally fragile time of his life. Even though the singer had made up with his parents before they passed, he still chose not to attend their funerals. Sting said that he overlooked the mourning process and thought that if he focused on work and tried to keep busy, he would move on. He later understood that he was running away from the pain as he had done on previous occasions.

Sting shared the complicated relationship he had with his parents:

“I think I underestimated the importance of the mourning process. I thought I’d said goodbye to them, which was important, but the actual interring of the remains and the sharing of that with the family, I didn’t take that seriously. I thought I’ll get on with work. I was terrified. Running away is what I’ve always done.”

You can listen to the song that many believe refers to Sting’s father’s passing below.