Eric Clapton’s Fear Which Led Him To Pattie Boyd

As the patient lies on the couch, the psychologist can see the weight of the world etched in the lines of their face. They can finally understand that their traumas are rooted deep in their childhood, as everything started with a moment of rejection. A moment that sent their life spiraling out of control, leading to a lifelong search for acceptance. Even though such realizations often serve as epiphanies, it might take some time to change our perspective and approach to life.

As we now know, childhood traumas can profoundly affect adult relationships, shaping how we view love and connections. This is especially true in the case of Eric Clapton, whose childhood memory of rejection led him to seek acceptance in the form of tumultuous relationships. The iconic guitarist once recalled his childhood traumas while speaking to Evening Standard in 2012 and explained how they led her to his friend George Harrison’s then-wife, Pattie Boyd.

Eric Clapton’s childhood was not an easy one, as he was raised believing that his grandmother was his mother, while his biological mother, Pat, was presented to him as his sister. It was not until he was seven years old that he discovered the truth while eavesdropping, but Pat had already moved to Canada with her new husband.

One day Pat, her husband, and their two children arrived in Southampton for a visit, and young Eric went to meet the boat with a burning question on his mind. He excitedly blurted out, “Can I call you Mummy now?” Pat seemed shocked and told him it would be best if he continued to call his grandparents mum and dad. It was a moment of total abandonment for him, as he felt like he was rejected by the one person who should have been there for him all along.

The revelation that Pat was his mother and her subsequent rejection profoundly impacted Clapton’s life. During the conversation, he said that it must be “Like being on The X Factor and being told you’re useless, clear off” and added, “I can’t watch that program because it brings a feeling of rejection.” Eric Clapton then admitted that he never really explored the connection between his fear of not being accepted and his childhood traumas, and how it might have contributed to his lifelong struggles with addiction.

Eric said, “What I didn’t really explore was my fear of rejection and where that came from.” However, he did confess that what attracted him to Pattie Boyd the most was her unavailability.’ In fact, that was also probably the source of his stubbornness to turn a no into a yes, as he had threatened Pattie Boyd that he’d start using heroin if she didn’t agree to be with him.

Although he eventually succeeded and even managed to mend his relationship with George Harrison, it’s safe to say that Pattie and Eric’s marriage was not happy. It was tainted by infidelity, addiction, and abuse. Eric Clapton struggled to understand why he was stuck in a loop, could not commit to one person, and was not content with his life. However, it seems like facing his childhood and understanding how they brought out and encouraged his toxic traits have helped him heal.

It’s important to remember that childhood traumas can profoundly affect our adult lives and relationships. Eric Clapton’s story is a prime example of how our past can dictate our choices when choosing a partner, as in the search for healing and love, we often unknowingly seek out the very thing that hurt us the most.

The rocker struggled with addiction and fear of rejection for many years, but through the 12-step program, he could understand the root cause of his issues and find a path to healing his inner child. He has been married to Melia McEnery since 2002 and has clearly built a more stable and healthy relationship.