Kurt Cobain’s Daughter Frances On Overcoming Her Resentment For Being Brought Into A Chaotic Life


Late Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain‘s daughter Frances Bean Cobain recently shared a post on her Instagram to celebrate her 30th birthday. Cobain wrote a long comment under the post detailing how she is dealing with the traumatic experiences and her chaotic life.

Even before her birth, Frances Cobain faced life’s challenges with the fame her father had gained as rumors had spread about her mother Courtney Love’s use of heroin during the pregnancy. The subject became more widespread after Vanity Fair magazine published the American journalist Lynn Hirschberg’s article ‘Strange Love.’ The journalist claimed that Love admitted to using heroin even after learning about her pregnancy.

Although Love and Kurt Cobain conveyed that the article twisted the facts, child welfare services began researching the pair’s parenthood abilities. Later, there were legal disputes, and Frances Bean was removed from her parents when she was only two weeks old. Eventually, she returned to her parents, and the investigation was dismissed.

Losing her father at a very young was another challenging experience for her. It was the last time Frances Bean saw her father on April 1, 1994, before he was found dead at his home in Seattle one week later. Frances Bean was subsequently raised by her mother, aunts, and grandmother. Due to her mother’s legal troubles, Frances grew apart from her for a while in the early 2000s.

In later years, Cobain followed her passion by studying art at Bard College and attending many modeling and artwork events. She started to see life with different eyes, especially after her plane incident in 2017 when she witnessed the wing of the plane she was in catch fire during her flight. Then, she set her mind to live in the moment and strengthen her loving relationships with the people around her.

Recently, while celebrating her 30th birthday, Frances Bean Cobain said that she did not know how to deal with all the trauma and chaos she experienced in her 20s. After the plane incident, she said she found a way to turn her pain into knowledge. She noted that now she only wants to stay calm and continue to grow by spreading peace, adding that she is happy to be living in this world.

Frances Bean Cobain wrote in her IG post:

“30! I made it! Honestly, 20-year-old Frances wasn’t sure that was going to happen. At the time, an intrinsic sense of deep self-loathing dictated by insecurity, destructive coping mechanisms & more trauma than my body or brain knew how to handle informed how I saw myself and the world; through a lens of resentment for being brought into a life that seemingly attracted so much chaos and the kind of pain tied to grief that felt inescapable.

Then, an event on a plane that brought me closer in proximity to death is ironically the event that catapulted me towards running at this lived experience with radical gratitude. I’m glad to have proven myself wrong & to have found ways to transform pain into knowledge. There’s a quote by Dr. Jaiya John I hold closely, which is ‘the softer she became with herself, the softer she became with the world.’

It’s a sentiment I try to remember daily. Entering this new decade, I hope to stay soft no matter how hardening the world can feel at times, bask in the present moment with reverence, shower the people I am lucky enough to love with more appreciation than words could ever do justice & hold space to keep learning, so the growth never stops. I’m happy to be here & I’m happy you’re here too.”

You can see the IG post below.

Photo Credit: Frances Bean Cobain – Instagram