A Secret Letter Shows How Did Kurt Cobain Feel About Dave Grohl

Foo Fighters founder Dave Grohl has been working with the band for the last 27 years as the band’s frontman, successfully releasing studio albums, countless chart hits, and touring all around the world. However, Grohl is also known with another legendary band, Nirvana, with whom he was the drummer for four years and created a legacy like non-other. While fans have always admired the musical relationship between him and other band members, especially late lead singer Kurt Cobain, the personal relationship remained a less known matter.

Dave Grohl’s journey with Nirvana started after his band named Scream suddenly disbanded and he called Melvins’ guitarist Buzz Osborne for advice only to be informed that Nirvana was looking for a drummer in September 1990. Receiving the phone numbers of frontman Kurt Cobain and bassist Krist Novoselic, Grohl auditioned for the band in Seattle and soon joined the band as a permanent member and became Nirvana’s drummer.

There’s no doubt that Nirvana instantly became an icon in the grunge scene with their legendary second studio album, ‘Nevermind’ which was released on September 24, 1991, and from that on, the band became one of the best-selling bands of all time, having sold more than 75 million records worldwide despite their short-lived music career. On top of being an iconic band as well as selling millions of albums, Nirvana also received countless awards including a Grammy Award, American Music Award, seven MTV Video Music Awards, and many more.

According to the big majority of the fans, the secret ingredient to the band’s success was the band members’ harmony when it comes to their music on and off stage, however, the personal relationship of the band members, especially between Dave Grohl and late frontman Kurt Cobain has always been a matter of curiosity, therefore, let’s look deeper into Grohl’s previous interviews as well as the secret letter penned by Cobain in which he revealed his opinions on his bandmate.

Dave Grohl Once Revealed A Secret Letter He Received From Kurt Cobain


Some of you might remember that Dave Grohl once opened up about the relationship with his Nirvana bandmates Kurt Cobain, Krist Novoselic during an interview with The Big Issue a few months ago and revealed that all the band members were a match made in heaven when it comes to making music and communicating through their instruments.

However, the former Nirvana drummer also revealed that there was a dysfunction in Nirvana which isn’t there with his current band Foo Fighters and the band members wouldn’t be together even for four years if it weren’t for the music that kept them together and in touch. In addition to this, Grohl stated that he wasn’t as close with Kurt Cobain as he’s with Foo Fighters drummer Taylor Hawkins.

Here is what Grohl said during the interview with The Big Issue:

“But personally, it was a bit off, to be honest. Of course, we loved each other. We were friends. But, you know, there was a dysfunction in Nirvana that a band like Foo Fighters doesn’t have. You also have to realize, from the time I joined Nirvana to the time it was over was only about four years. It wasn’t a long period of time. Was I close to Kurt, as I am to Taylor Hawkins? No.

When I see Krist now, I hug him like family. But back then we were young, the world was just so strange. But that emotional dysfunction in Nirvana was relieved when we put on instruments. If the music hadn’t worked, we wouldn’t have been there together.

Despite not having the closest relationship with his bandmate as Grohl himself revealed, during an old interview with Psychobabble Foo Fighters frontman was asked a hypothetical question about a given situation including a housefire and choosing one item to save from the house.

Apparently, it would be a letter he received from Nirvana’s frontman in 1992 when the members of the band were living apart and Nirvana was making decisions without him which was a tedious situation for him to have. In order to comfort his bandmate, Kurt penned a letter to Dave and revealed his love for the legendary drummer as well as his desire to get back in the studio in order to make a record with him.

Here is what the interviewer asked:

“Your house containing everything you own catches fire. After saving loved ones and pets, you have time to save one item. What would it be?”

Here is what Dave Grohl said:

Probably this letter I got from Kurt in 1992. That sounds terribly melodramatic, but it’s true. I lose everything: passports, wallets, car keys, credit cards, but that letter is absolutely irreplaceable. He wrote it to me when everything was going nuts. We were all living in different places- he was in Los Angeles, I was in Virginia and Krist was in Seattle- and some decisions were being made without me.

I got really bummed out and Kurt sent me this letter about my role and stature in the band. It was all, ‘I love you like a brother.’ It was just before we did ‘In Utero’ and it said, ‘I can’t wait to get back in the studio and make a record so we can whittle ourselves back down to a comfortable level,’ Which of course never really happened.”

While it’s clear that Dave Grohl and Kurt Cobain didn’t have what we call conventional love, however, it’s fair to say that the two bandmates had a deep connection and love that wasn’t possible to be defined with the normal definitions of affection. Still, it has been nice for their fans to find out about a letter penned by the late frontman which revealed his admiration to his bandmate.